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A Handy List of What Not to Say (And What to Say) to Support a Divorcing Friend
When my mother was diagnosed with cancer, one of the first friends she told said to her,
“Oh, multiple myeloma? My uncle died of that.”
It became a running punchline for us (the humor in my house was of a dark variety): the exact wrong thing to say in any given situation.
What follows is kind of like the divorce version of that.
Read MoreGiving Our Kids a Voice
It was so refreshing to see this recent New York Times Modern Love column, written by a 15-year-old girl about her parents’ divorce.
When we talk about the effect divorce has on children, we often see stats, or hear expert opinions from leading psychologists. All of these are relevant and important, but it is rare to actually see or hear the voices and perspectives of the kids themselves: What are they dealing with? What does it feel like? What do they need?
Read MoreCo-Parenting in the Pandemic
My friend Lisa recently said to me, “You and your ex-husband are like the poster children for a healthy divorced couple. How do you do it?” The snarky wise-ass in me would say it’s because I let a lot of shit go. And while, sure, there is some truth to that, the reality is a lot kinder and gentler.
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